"There are more things, Lucilius, likely to frighten us than there are to crush us; we suffer more often in imagination than in reality."
What it means
Seneca was writing to a younger friend about fear. He doesn't pretend bad things never happen. What he notices is that most of the suffering arrives early, in rehearsal, and a lot of what we rehearse never shows up at all. He even sorts the ways a fear gets ahead of the facts: "some things torment us more than they ought; some torment us before they ought; and some torment us when they ought not to torment us at all."
Try it now · 2 minutes
- Write the fear down in one sentence.
- Ask Seneca's three questions. Is it hurting more than it ought? Before it ought? Or when it ought not to at all?
- If it's "before", write the date it could actually happen, and leave it until then.
Use it when you notice you're living through something that hasn't happened yet.























